K.D. Holmes Blog

A core aspect of my practice centers on supporting adults who grapple with anxiety and depression due to their relentless pursuit of perfection and overachieving.

Have you ever had a dream that seemed so out of reach, so impossible to achieve?  And the shame of not being able to achieve it became unbearable so overtime you slowly buried it deep within you, and now you have forgot about it altogether. If so, then welcome to my brain, my office, my world– where we will be uncovering and exploring those hopes and dreams hidden in the dark corner of your soul.

It’s been a long time since I had an adventure. I have been consumed by my day-to-day responsibilities of my relationship, work, family.  I try to fit in all the important things.  This is what I call having an intentional life that is driven by my values.  No pressure? SMH... Its actually the complete opposite.  I live with lots of internal pressure and too much movement.

Conventionally, most people understand the concept of how our bodies operate. The brain, as the central processor, conjures up the command for an action, then, via the nervous system, sends the signal to the body part that needs moving or to the gland that will produce the hormones to signal the response that is needed.

Well this is one complicated question, but I will attempt to sum it up as best as I can. Overachieving is made up of habits, personality traits, mental health symptoms, our history, and social networks -- which makes for a complicated way through this issue.  

In my office and in my personal life, I am reminded of how difficult holidays are for most humans, without the 2020 extras.  Thrown into the mix now is a more emotional ups and downs, sadness, anger, frustration, and anxiety that 2020 has brought on.   

I have been called "nervous" since I was a child.  I would venture to say that large doses of caffeine and chocolate probably did not help my "nervousness".  As a small child, I would drink a coke and eat a bag of Hershey's chocolates and literally run in circles at family functions.  We still laugh at these memories.  

A fascinating new therapeutic technique that I’d like to share with you is Image Transformation Therapy.  This is a technique that I trained in during the quarantine. 

Recently I relearned about inhibitory learning.  I love knowledge that challenges me to look at things in an alternative way. It is probably due to my Anthropology brain/degree. I’d compare it to learning another perspective of viewing a problem.  

Working Through Anxiety

Anxiety can be so debilitating that it interferes with daily tasks, moods, presence with loved ones, and ultimately, quality of life. It slowly erodes who a person is with physical and mental nagging.