KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED

KD Holmes, LPC has been a therapist for 16 years working with anxiety disorders, phobias, OCD, and trauma.

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When Attraction Becomes a Question: Understanding Sexual Orientation OCD (SO-OCD)

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Sep 12, 2026, 8:36:43 PM

There's a particular kind of vertigo that comes from doubting something you never used to question. You wake up next to the partner you love, and instead of feeling anchored, a thought slices through: What if I'm not who I think I am? You replay a glance, a passing thought, a stray physical sensation, searching it for evidence. This is the terrain of Sexual Orientation OCD-sometimes called SO-OCD-and if you're here, you already know how...

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Healing Deep Within: How DBR Helps the Body Let Go of What It Had to Hold

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Jul 16, 2026, 2:03:22 PM

Sometimes you know you are ok, but your body does not believe you yet. You can be sitting in your car, lying in bed, talking to someone you love, or trying to get through an ordinary Tuesday, and suddenly your body reacts as if something is wrong. Your chest tightens. Your stomach drops. Your shoulders rise. Your jaw locks. Your mind starts...

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Complex PTSD: When Trauma Is How Your Body Learned to Survive

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Jan 7, 2026, 5:40:08 PM

Many new people come into my office asking the same question: Why am I not getting better? For many people, the missing piece is complex PTSD vs PTSD. My practice has a way of becoming a landing place for people who feel stuck-people who’ve already tried therapy. I don’t know if it’s decades of experience, a deep respect for human complexity, or...

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When EMDR Isn’t Enough: How DBR Reaches the Places Words Can’t

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Aug 5, 2025, 8:33:19 PM

Change doesn’t only happen through talking. If you’ve had EMDR and felt that uncanny sense of relief-as if something inside you shifted without needing to revisit every painful detail-you already know this. Deep brain reorienting speaks to that same truth. Sometimes healing starts in the quiet, deep-down places that remember safety before your...

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When Love Feels Like a Question: Relationship OCD

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Jul 21, 2025, 7:36:38 PM

There’s a kind of love that doesn’t bloom gently-it twists in your chest, tight and unrelenting. It’s not love’s absence that hurts, but the constant question of whether it’s real enough, right enough, deep enough. This is what Relationship OCD (ROCD) does: it turns love into a test you never feel like you’re passing.

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When Just Right OCD Feels Like Survival

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Jul 21, 2025, 7:25:59 PM

Do you often think or feel something’s off? Not dangerous, not dirty-just... wrong. The book isn’t crooked, but it isn’t straight enough. The sentence you wrote is perfectly clear, but something in your chest says, fix it again. You’re not chasing cleanliness or control. You’re chasing relief from a feeling that lives somewhere between your ribs...

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When Clean Doesn’t Feel Clean: Contamination OCD

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Jun 12, 2025, 8:20:57 AM

There’s a kind of fear that hides in the ordinary. A doorknob. A grocery cart. The memory of a word. Contamination OCD is not about being tidy-it’s about terror masquerading as hygiene. It’s about a nervous system that screams danger where others feel safe. And no amount of scrubbing seems to quiet the noise.

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When Certainty Becomes a Cage: Scrupulosity OCD

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Jun 12, 2025, 8:07:45 AM

There’s a particular pain that comes not from sin itself, but from the fear of it. A weariness that settles into the bones, not from wrongdoing, but from the constant mental replay of whether one has done wrong. If you’re here, maybe you know that ache. Maybe you’ve spent hours replaying a thought, a prayer, a memory-looking for the invisible...

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Harm OCD: Why These Thoughts Don't Mean What You Fear They Do

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Jun 5, 2025, 8:24:32 AM

Some fears arrive like thunderstorms-loud, visible, and unmistakable. Others creep in quietly, like fog-unwelcome, disorienting, and hard to explain. Harm OCD often belongs to the second kind. It whispers intrusive fears not about what has happened, but about what might. What if I snap? What if I hurt someone I love? What if I hit someone on the...

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The Fear No One Talks About: Understanding POCD Through ERP

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: May 31, 2025, 2:06:35 PM

There is a particular kind of fear that doesn’t just scare you-it makes you question who you are. It shows up out of nowhere: an unwanted image, a flash of a thought about a child, and then a wave of horror that your own mind could produce something like that. If you’re here, you may be dealing with intrusive sexual thoughts involving children...

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