KD HOLMES, MS, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED

Explore KD Holmes's articles on trauma, OCD, anxiety, relationships, and the connection between mind and body. This collection includes reflections on EMDR, Deep Brain Reorienting, boundaries, perfectionism, and the questions people bring into therapy.

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Anxiety

Venn Diagram of success, female experience, and mental health

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Navigating Success Through the Lens of Women’s Mental Health

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Mar 20, 2024, 8:02:54 AM

In today’s fast-paced and often unrelenting world-where success is measured by tangible achievements and milestones-it’s essential to center an aspect that is frequently overlooked: successful women’s mental health. For women navigating multiple roles across personal, professional, and relational domains, mental well-being is not optional; it is...

Cycle of a goal, anxiety, compulsive over achieving, followed by relief

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Achievement Pressure: What’s So Wrong With Being an Overachiever?

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Oct 29, 2023, 2:21:46 PM

Overachieving is a complex web of perfectionistic behaviors, personality traits, mental health challenges, personal history, and social influences. It doesn't always look like a problem - until it starts to cost you something.

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Adventures in Anxiety Treatment

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: May 21, 2023, 8:19:56 AM

Have you ever buried a dream so deeply that you’ve forgotten it was there at all? A dream that once felt so unattainable that even allowing yourself to think about it became unbearable? If so, welcome to my world - the space where we gently confront the impossible and uncover the hopes hiding in the quiet corners of your soul. For many people,...

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It's No Use Going Back to Yesterday I Was a Different Person Then

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Apr 14, 2023, 1:44:00 AM

Many people seek therapy because they feel blocked in some way-like reaching a steep cliff where the road suddenly ends and there’s no bridge in sight. Sometimes these blocks are rooted in emotional pain or traumatic life experiences, but other times they stem from underlying health concerns. Understanding the Mental in health is essential when...

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Mental Health and the Holidays

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Dec 2, 2022, 8:33:24 AM

Surviving the Holiday Stress (a.k.a. the Zombie Apocalypse) isn’t just a catchy phrase—it’s a real reflection of how the season can feel for many people. While the holidays are often portrayed as magical, filled with sparkling lights, festive music, and joyful gatherings, the reality can be very different. Beneath the twinkling decorations,holiday...

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Did you know...I have Social Anxiety!

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: May 26, 2021, 10:15:56 AM

Many of my clients are often surprised to discover that I had social anxiety. Watching my videos or listening to me speak, you'd probably never guess that being around groups of unfamiliar people can feel overwhelming. But the truth is, social anxiety is a part of my life-one that I’ve learned to recognize, manage, and continuously challenge.

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My Story of Perfectionism and Burnout

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Jan 18, 2021, 3:29:17 PM

Overachieving is made up of emotional urges, ingrained habits, and an incredible amount of lost time. I was constantly driven by the need to achieve, and from the outside, it often looked like I was thriving. But internally, the cost was steep. What I didn’t realize at the time was that this cycle was slowly leading me toward perfectionism...

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Laughing and Crying Through the Holidays

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Nov 24, 2020, 9:30:53 AM

The holiday season can be a magical time filled with laughter, joy, and cherished traditions. However, beneath the surface of all the joy and celebration, it also brings its own set of unique challenges. Between the pressure to create the "perfect" holiday experience, financial stress, family dynamics, and the sheer busyness of the season, it’s no...

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Why Am I so Anxious?

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Oct 20, 2020, 9:48:28 AM

I’ve been called “nervous” for as long as I can remember. Even as a child, the label stuck. Looking back now, I can see how early experiences like that quietly shaped the question so many of us eventually ask ourselves: why am I so anxious, even when nothing obvious seems wrong? I’d venture to guess that the large doses of caffeine and chocolate I...

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Learning to Ride Roller Coasters: Exposure Therapy for Anxiety

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Jan 31, 2020, 11:57:55 AM

Recently, I revisited the concept of inhibitory learning, and once again, it reshaped how I understand anxiety management. There’s something energizing about knowledge that invites a new perspective-a subtle shift in the lens through which a familiar problem is viewed. I credit that curiosity to my deeply rooted anthropology brain and training. It...

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