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KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Jul 21, 2025, 7:36:38 PM
There’s a kind of love that doesn’t bloom gently-it twists in your chest, tight and unrelenting. It’s not love’s absence that hurts, but the constant question of whether it’s real enough, right enough, deep enough. This is what Relationship OCD (ROCD) does: it turns love into a test you never feel like you’re passing.
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KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Jun 12, 2025, 8:20:57 AM
There’s a kind of fear that hides in the ordinary. A doorknob. A grocery cart. The memory of a word. Contamination OCD is not about being tidy-it’s about terror masquerading as hygiene. It’s about a nervous system that screams danger where others feel safe. And no amount of scrubbing seems to quiet the noise.
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KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Jun 12, 2025, 8:07:45 AM
There’s a particular pain that comes not from sin itself, but from the fear of it. A weariness that settles into the bones, not from wrongdoing, but from the constant mental replay of whether one has done wrong. If you’re here, maybe you know that ache. Maybe you’ve spent hours replaying a thought, a prayer, a memory-looking for the invisible...
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KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Jun 5, 2025, 8:24:32 AM
Some fears arrive like thunderstorms-loud, visible, and unmistakable. Others creep in quietly, like fog-unwelcome, disorienting, and hard to explain. Harm OCD often belongs to the second kind. It whispers intrusive fears not about what has happened, but about what might. What if I snap? What if I hurt someone I love? What if I hit someone on the...
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KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: May 31, 2025, 2:06:35 PM
There is a particular kind of fear that doesn’t just scare you-it makes you question who you are. It shows up out of nowhere: an unwanted image, a flash of a thought about a child, and then a wave of horror that your own mind could produce something like that. If you’re here, you may be dealing with intrusive sexual thoughts involving children...
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KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Feb 2, 2023, 11:06:10 AM
Many clients ask me, “What exactly is ERP?” Exposure and Response Prevention Treatment, or ERP, may sound formal or technical, but at its core, it is a powerful behavioral framework designed to bring order to the chaos of living with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD). Imagine OCD as a relentless cycle of obsessions and compulsions, continuing...
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KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Jul 25, 2022, 5:27:20 PM
Have you ever had a thought that pops into your head uninvited and unwelcome? These experiences can show up as disturbing images, unsettling phrases, or even visceral sensations that interrupt otherwise peaceful moments. What’s important to understand is that intrusive thoughts in OCD are not rooted in hidden desires or secret wishes to act on...
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KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Jul 25, 2022, 12:22:00 PM
I began working with individuals who have OCD about 10 to 12 years ago. My journey into understanding OCD started in graduate school, where I was introduced to the basics of the disorder. At the time, though, my understanding of OCD symptoms and treatment was limited. OCD treatment requires specialized training, particularly around concepts like...
