KD HOLMES, MS, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED

Explore KD Holmes's articles on trauma, OCD, anxiety, relationships, and the connection between mind and body. This collection includes reflections on EMDR, Deep Brain Reorienting, boundaries, perfectionism, and the questions people bring into therapy.

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My Story of Perfectionism and Burnout

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Jan 18, 2021, 3:29:17 PM

Overachieving is made up of emotional urges, ingrained habits, and an incredible amount of lost time. I was constantly driven by the need to achieve, and from the outside, it often looked like I was thriving. But internally, the cost was steep. What I didn’t realize at the time was that this cycle was slowly leading me toward perfectionism burnout, where the pressure to succeed began to outweigh any sense of fulfillment or well-being.

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Laughing and Crying Through the Holidays

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Nov 24, 2020, 9:30:53 AM

The holiday season can be a magical time filled with laughter, joy, and cherished traditions. However, beneath the surface of all the joy and celebration, it also brings its own set of unique challenges. Between the pressure to create the "perfect" holiday experience, financial stress, family dynamics, and the sheer busyness of the season, it’s no...

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Why Am I so Anxious?

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Oct 20, 2020, 9:48:28 AM

I’ve been called “nervous” for as long as I can remember. Even as a child, the label stuck. Looking back now, I can see how early experiences like that quietly shaped the question so many of us eventually ask ourselves: why am I so anxious, even when nothing obvious seems wrong? I’d venture to guess that the large doses of caffeine and chocolate I...

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Learning to Ride Roller Coasters: Exposure Therapy for Anxiety

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Jan 31, 2020, 11:57:55 AM

Recently, I revisited the concept of inhibitory learning, and once again, it reshaped how I understand anxiety management. There’s something energizing about knowledge that invites a new perspective-a subtle shift in the lens through which a familiar problem is viewed. I credit that curiosity to my deeply rooted anthropology brain and training. It...

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.....And Just Like That, He Was Gone

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Jan 16, 2020, 9:45:02 AM

As I am filled with shock ( the first stage of grief), it's hard to imagine that a man that looked like this, could die. I don’t think anything can prepare you for the death of a parent. Whether distant or close, it leaves a mark within. I use my rational mind to remind me that this is a natural part of life. I remind myself that I did enough as a...

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What is Trauma Therapy?

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Dec 5, 2019, 9:40:28 AM

What is trauma? Many people unknowingly live with what I often call “trauma brain.” It’s an invisible force shaping their reactions, emotions, and even physical symptoms-without them realizing that unresolved trauma is driving much of their distress. Trauma therapy helps make this visible. It focuses on how overwhelming experiences live in the...

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The Enigma of Mental Health?

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Nov 22, 2019, 10:57:37 AM

Therapy is a space where people seek clarity, change, and deeper understanding of mental health concerns. These challenges often show up as symptoms—both self-reported and observable—such as anxiety, phobias, trauma responses, depression, obsessions and compulsions, or distress tied to significant life events. Every symptom tells a story, and...

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What is the Secret to Choosing a Therapist?

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Nov 22, 2019, 10:57:17 AM

Therapy is not one-size-fits-all. Finding a therapist is more nuanced than selecting someone from a list. It’s a deeply personal decision that shapes one of the most critical relationships you'll enter-a partnership intended to guide your growth, deepen your clarity, and gain a greater understanding of yourself. Therapy, unlike seeking treatment...

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How Do I Climb Out of My Depressive Hole?

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Nov 21, 2019, 2:48:54 PM

Not just sad-but slowed down. Heavy. Disconnected from yourself, from other people, from things that used to feel meaningful. Even simple tasks can feel like too much, and the idea of “fixing it” can feel unclear or out of reach. Depression is not just a mood. It’s a mental health condition that affects your energy, your thoughts, your body, and...

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Conversations with An Anxious Mind

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED: Nov 5, 2019, 10:03:51 AM

Anxiety can feel like an invisible weight, pressing on your chest, disrupting your focus, and quietly creeping into every corner of your life. It doesn’t only show up in big, obvious moments; it settles into the quiet ones too. Anxious thoughts can make everyday tasks feel overwhelming, drain joy from things you once enjoyed, distort your mood,...

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