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Learning to Ride Roller Coasters: Exposure Therapy for Anxiety

KD HOLMES, LPC, EMDR CERTIFIED, BTTI TRAINED : Jan 31, 2020, 11:57:55 AM

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Learning to Ride Roller Coasters: Exposure Therapy for Anxiety

<p>Recently, I revisited the concept of inhibitory learning, and once again, it reshaped how I understand anxiety management. There’s something energizing about knowledge that invites a new perspective-a subtle shift in the lens through which a familiar problem is viewed. I credit that curiosity to my deeply rooted anthropology brain and training. It feels similar to stepping into someone else’s cultural narrative: less about judging the story, more about listening and understanding it. In that way, inhibitory learning-and its application in <span><span style="font-weight: normal;">exposure therapy for anxiety</span><strong>-</strong></span>offers a fresh angle on long-standing fears, reminding us that we can learn new responses even when the fear itself feels familiar.</p>  <h2 dir="ltr"><span>How to Deal with Anxiety:</span></h2> <h3 dir="ltr"> </h3> <h3 dir="ltr"><span>What is <a href="https://iocdf.org/expert-opinions/the-inhibitory-learning-approach-to-exposure-and-response-prevention/" rel="noopener">Inhibitory Learning (</a>Fear Tolerance)? </span></h3> <p dir="ltr"><span>At its core, inhibitory learning is a model used to deepen our understanding of Exposure Response Prevention (ERP)-the gold standard used to treat obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). ERP targets the cyclical loop of obsessions (intrusive thoughts) and compulsions (repetitive actions or mental rituals). Gradual exposure to these obsessions while deliberately abstaining from related compulsions allows individuals to desensitize specific fears and break the vicious cycle of OCD. </span></p> <p dir="ltr"><span>But inhibitory learning offers an even more nuanced perspective. It’s not just about reducing sensitivity. It’s about creating entirely new lessons-new associations-around our fears and obsessions. Our brains are incredibly adaptive, capable of replacing old, fear-based pairings with new, healthier associations. Through inhibitory learning, you train yourself to sit with anxiety without acting on compulsions. You gradually discover, often to your surprise, that your worst fears don’t materialize-or, even if they do, you are far more capable of tolerating the uncertainty or discomfort than you previously believed. </span></p> <h2 dir="ltr"> </h2> <h3 dir="ltr"><span>Why Fear and <a href="/en/blog/anxiety-magnifying-catastrophisizing-snow-balling-mind" rel="noopener">Anxiety</a> Feel Familiar but Work Against Us </span></h3> <p dir="ltr"><span>Fear is a primal, evolutionary response-it keeps us safe from danger. But in OCD or anxiety disorders, that mechanism misfires, sounding alarms for situations that don’t inherently put us in harm’s way. Anxiety takes everyday moments and amplifies them, locking us in loops of avoidance or compulsive behaviors aimed at providing short-term relief. The problem? Avoiding or ritualizing doesn’t resolve the fear; it reinforces it. </span></p> <p dir="ltr"><span>What inhibitory learning does is rewire that relationship with fear. Think of it like learning to enjoy activities that were biologically designed to frighten us-like riding a rollercoaster or watching a scary movie. On the surface, we should avoid these experiences because they heighten our heart rate, trigger adrenaline, and evoke fear. Yet, we don’t just tolerate them-we seek them out, turning fear into something exhilarating or fun. </span></p> <p dir="ltr"><span>Similarly, inhibitory learning teaches us to form new pairings for anxiety triggers. Through varied exposures (as opposed to repetitive ones), we’re essentially teaching the brain that fear, while uncomfortable, doesn’t have to equate to danger. It’s like whack-a-mole-the way anxiety or OCD presents itself constantly shifts. Addressing one specific fear or obsession might cause another to pop up. That's why inhibitory learning is so compelling. Instead of fixing a single mole, it helps build tolerance for all the moles, teaching us to step back and understand we don’t have to hit every single one. </span></p> <h3 dir="ltr"><span>Anxiety and <a href="/en/blog/the-power-of-erp-therapy-overcoming-ocd" rel="noopener">OCD Treatment</a> Through Learning </span></h3> <p dir="ltr"><span>This is where inhibitory learning can truly be life-changing. By addressing fears, obsessions, and anxiety through cultivating tolerance, you’re not just solving one isolated issue-you’re equipping yourself with a powerful resilience that applies to every facet of life. Instead of viewing fear as something to conquer or suppress, inhibitory learning teaches us to sit with it, face it as a sensation rather than an insurmountable obstacle. This approach shifts the narrative around fear, encouraging us to move through it with patience and self-compassion. Over time, this practice builds lasting confidence and emotional resilience that extends well beyond the source of anxiety. It’s not merely about coping with fear-it’s about transforming it into an opportunity to cultivate tolerance, one step at a time. This approach lies at the heart of OCD training and its structured schedule.</span></p> <h2 dir="ltr"> </h2> <h2 dir="ltr"><span><a href="/en/blog/post/working-with-kd-a-thoughtful-therapy-experience" rel="noopener">Inhibitory Meaning</a> in Therapy </span></h2> <p dir="ltr"><span>For me, the concept of inhibitory learning is both mind-blowing and affirming. It highlights what I’ve intuitively facilitated in my therapy sessions, whether through techniques like ERP (Exposure Response Prevention), or DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy). While I’ve always been intentional about fostering resilience, inhibitory learning provides a concrete framework for labeling and channeling that process with even greater depth. </span></p> <p dir="ltr"><span>My ultimate goal as a therapist is straightforward: to work myself out of a job. That may sound odd, but it’s true. What I mean is that I aim to build enough resilience and self-reliance in my clients that they no longer need me. I want them to know, deeply and unwaveringly, that they have the tools to weather both their internal and external storms. Therapy isn’t just about resolving immediate issues; it’s about preparing for future disruptions-by learning how to identify what you need and applying it when life inevitably gets messy. </span></p> <p dir="ltr"><span>The tricky thing about the mind is that, while it’s inside us, it often feels like it has a will of its own. We think we should be able to fix everything ourselves because it belongs to “us.” The truth is, </span><strong>that </strong><span>our minds sometimes require external guidance, especially with mental health. We often need extra support to unlearn ingrained patterns buried within our deep brains.</span></p> <h3 dir="ltr"><span>Some Realities About Anxiety and <a href="/ocd-therapy-lafayette-la" rel="noopener">OCD</a></span></h3> <p><strong>Some Things Are Biological.</strong><span> It’s something we need to remind ourselves of often-that biology shapes parts of who we are. Research reveals that people with OCD often carry more gray matter in certain areas of their brains. It’s fascinating, isn’t it? Like an intricate map etched into the brain, biology whispers clues about how we’re wired. Though biology isn’t destiny, understanding it can be a way of extending compassion to ourselves-a small act of acceptance in the face of complexity.</span></p> <p dir="ltr"><span>Gray matter is like the scaffolding of our minds, quietly supporting how we process the world. It’s where decisions are born and emotions find their rhythm. This delicate network is built from neuron cell bodies, dendrites, and synapses-the places where our thoughts spark and grow. In people with OCD, the story shifts, as research often notes increased gray matter in areas tied to specific functions: </span></p> <p dir="ltr" style="padding-left: 40px;"><strong>Anterior Cingulate Cortex (ACC):</strong><span> A watchtower of sorts, scanning for errors and guiding decisions, while anchoring emotions. </span></p> <p dir="ltr" style="padding-left: 40px;"><strong>Orbitofrontal Cortex (OFC):</strong><span> A compass for impulse control and weighing consequences, navigating the terrain of choices. </span></p> <p dir="ltr" style="padding-left: 40px;"><strong>Basal Ganglia:</strong><span> The keeper of habits, movement, and the sweet pull of rewards. </span></p> <p dir="ltr"><span>These regions, with their heightened gray matter, tell the story of a brain working overtime, looped into patterns of repetitive thoughts and compulsive actions. It’s like an orchestra playing too loudly- hyperconnectivity weaving overactive melodies of fear and intrusive thoughts. It's just neurology and our behaviors reinforce this overactive response.  </span></p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>Changing Symptoms Isn’t the Solution.</strong><span> The goal isn’t to triage every uncomfortable thought, feeling, or bodily sensation, but to learn to tolerate their presence. Acceptance is a critical first step in the learning process. </span></p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>Therapy is Essential.</strong><span> If you’re dealing with OCD, anxiety, or any condition that disrupts your quality of life, finding a therapist who specializes in your specific challenges is key. Experts provide insight and facilitate changes that are difficult, if not impossible, to enact on your own. </span></p> <h2 dir="ltr"> </h2> <h2 dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/exposure-therapy-what-is-it-and-how-can-it-help?" rel="noopener">Therapy is Learning</a></h2> <p dir="ltr"><span>Every therapist’s office is fundamentally a space for learning. It’s where this kind of adaptive change begins. And while it may feel daunting at first, remember that embarking on this process is akin to seeking a specialist for a physical ailment. You wouldn’t try to treat lung issues on your own; you’d consult an expert and follow their recommendations. Mental health is no different. </span></p> <p dir="ltr"><span>OCD, anxiety, fear-they’re part of a shared human experience. But there’s immense power in placing yourself in the role of a student when it comes to these challenges. The tools you gain through therapy aren’t confined to one specific situation; they ripple outward, reconfiguring how you approach uncertainty across life’s many domains. </span></p> <h2 dir="ltr"> </h2> <h2 dir="ltr"><span>Final Thoughts </span></h2> <p dir="ltr"><span>The mind is a powerful and sometimes overwhelming place. But with the right tools, perspective, and support, it’s also a space where profound learning and change take place. Therapy offers a starting point for that learning-a place to reframe, tolerate, and thrive in the face of discomfort. </span></p> <p dir="ltr"><span>If you’re asking yourself whether you can change your relationship with fear and anxiety, know this-you absolutely can. And if you’re ready to start, you don’t have to do it alone. There are tools, techniques, and communities to foster growth. </span></p> <h5 dir="ltr"><span>Learning awaits, and it begins in the therapy office.</span></h5> <p> </p> <h2><a href="/anxiety-management-lafayette-la" rel="noopener">Support for Anxiety and OCD at KDH Counseling</a></h2> <p>Working through anxiety and OCD takes more than understanding—it takes guided practice and the right support. Exposure based work can feel challenging, but it is one of the most effective ways to create lasting change.</p> <p>At KDH Counseling, we offer therapy, psychiatric medication management, and psychological evaluations to support individuals working through anxiety, OCD, and related concerns. Treatment is tailored to your needs, helping you build tolerance, reduce avoidance, and develop a more flexible relationship with fear over time.</p> <p>We provide services in Lafayette, Louisiana, with both in person and telehealth options available. You can learn more about our services or schedule a consultation to get started.</p> <p> </p> <p><span>

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