I am told by my clients I am soft, easy to talk to, and silly. But objectively it's hard to gauge when you work alone in a room with one other person. Therapists are trained to be soft, warm, and do no harm. When we only do that, we create an environment for people to stay stuck, avoid, and ultimately not improve.
After 15 years alone in the room, I can no longer be complacent in another's story. I can't stand by and watch another's suffering with a warm heart. It feels wrong to watch you chase your own tail, to watch you come week after week and not show you the evidenced based way out.
What I am offering is hard work. It is not the softer way. It is not avoidance, it is facing your suffering within you that will set you free. I am here to encourage emotional freedom, not by running away and enabling but by staring it in the eyes, when all you want to do is look away. We are biologically made to "look away," to fight, flight, freeze, or fawn in the face of danger.
I am here to help you stand your ground with your own suffering!
All humans struggle with suffering. But on social media all we see is flawless lives that are not real. Somewhere inside we all know this to be true, but images are so powerful that it's hard not to get caught in this emotional trap.
Movies, social media, and books foretell a life where we live happily every after. We get our perfect house, perfect job, perfect kids, perfect pets, perfect body, etc... You get the picture!
“To have it all” takes a lot of time and work. Time that seems too precious to be wasted. "Having it all" is an impossible perfect goal that by selectively posting on social media, we propagate and further increase distress in the world.
After 45 years of living, I don't want it all. I like my real life, where some days are monotonous, some days are meaningful, and some days I wish I could stay in bed. It's the grey that holds meaning. Its how I weave myself into those moments where Steve and I hug, we laugh as we watch our dogs, my nieces and family send a simple text, and last but not least when a client faces their own dragons.
I love what I do, it's an affirmation that humans are capable of so much more than we ever can imagine.
Facing our suffering is possible with the right kind of support! (Imagine a therapist's office) lol
What is "suffering"?
- Self criticism
- Overachieving, Perfectionism
- Anger or Rage
- Loneliness, Emptiness (feelings of absence)
- Relationship problems
- Traumatic events
- Obsessions and Compulsions
- Body tensions
Anytime someone says this is impossible. I accept the challenge and begin their impossible journey.
Therapy helps you find solutions for your life. For mild mental health issues the solutions can vary, but for severe to moderate mental health issues, the solution is direct and structured.
Therapy is founded on evidence based approaches that produce outcomes.
Each one of us is a unique individual with our own history, biological predispositions, preferences, and resulting mental health diagnosis. There is not one path to healthy living, but there are general psychological well-being components. These components can vary from person to person throughout the therapeutic process.
Therapy is a place where we...
Explore your inner and outer world - In order to discover what steps will pave the road to a better you.
Discover your needs, your desires, and your wants - Most humans have spent years disowning, shaming, and judging what they need, want, and desire.
Identify big or little traumatic events has created suffering.
Identify genetic predispositions we have inherited.
Name it! - Through the process of naming something we are able to find solutions.
Identify barriers, and find therapeutic solutions that work to impact our self esteem, our well being, and our overall functioning.
Identify thoughts, accept the terror of these thoughts, and live a life with these inner foes.
- Identify sensory sensitivities, and the way our brain reacts to stress in our bodies.
All these things collide to create different diagnoses!
We are all unique so it takes the right guidance to face our suffering.
I am here to provide guidance, consultation, expertise, and an objective perspective.
A big piece of what I do is to help you to discover who you naturally are, and how to increase meaning and your overall well being.
To learn to live with the sand/glass inside you. Addressing thoughts and actions that are blocking you, disturbing you, and distracting you.
Thought hygiene to help your mind stay in the present moment, present with your life.
To learn to live with what is disturbing you!
To create relaxing internal body sensations and release disturbing memories and feelings, and increase good feelings.
Done gradually, whether good or bad behaviors, these greatly impact your mental health.
To release events stuck in your nervous system shaping your reactions and symptoms today.
Remember - We are all human
Some people already know how to cope with their mental health issues, but most of us have to work to develop these skills. Some of us can learn by watching videos and reading self help books. But others need an objective party consulting on their mental health, identifying their barriers to treatment, and to providing tools to guide them through their inner maze of emotions, urges, and thoughts.